EPISODE 2: OVER COFFEE
We are back friends, episode 2 of Over Coffee! Another mini episode of my thoughts for ya. Today, in light of Valentines Day this past week, let's talk about some body love. I'm about to get real with you all....
I have and still am on a rollercoaster ride when it comes to my body. I have struggled with positive body image, with loving myself, with loving the way I look and my flaws. I have struggled waking up in the morning and getting dressed because everything doesn't fit right. I was beyond nervous to start a blog for the simple fact of not wanting to be behind the camera (shocking I know). I love fashion and clothes, all things style and all things that inspire me but posing in front of camera, makes me cringe because I never loved my body. I never had the confidence in myself to do so. Fast forward a year and half....I started my blog and have built more confidence in myself that I ever thought was possible.
How was this done? What made this possible? MINDSET. MINDSET. MINDSET.
It is 100% based on your mindset. 100%. I swear by this. Not only your mindset about how you view yourself but how you view others. Let me break this down:
- STOP SAYING "SHE HAS THE PERFECT BODY" or things like "WHAT ARE YOU EVEN TALKING ABOUT YOUR SO SKINNY." "HOW CAN YOU EAT THAT, THAT WOULD MAKE ME SO FAT," "LOOK AT THAT GIRL SHE HAS THE MOST PERFECT BODY THAT IS NOT FAIR." Phrases like this are killing your vibes. All these thoughts that are reflected on others are a direct reflection on yourself. I would avoid going to the pool when other girls were there because I didn't think I was "in shape or skinny" enough to tan...So what that someone is smaller than you, there's going to be millions of them. So what, if someone is in better shape than you. So freaking What. You are your own person. Your body is YOUR body. That is all that matters.
- PUT YOUR BLINDERS ON: Put them blinders on and practice NOT CARING. Love your shape, love your body and put your blinders to everyone else. Looking towards others for self motivation will always leave you high and dry feeling like crap about yourself. Be mindful of the thoughts that come in and out of your head about YO BODAY. Embrace it all. The good, the bad and the ugly.
- You are a WORK IN PROGRESS. This is the most important important information I can share. I am a work in progress. I am a work in progress every single day. Enjoy the process. There are days I eat a salad and workout and there are days I get a popcorn and soda at the movies. It's balance. I always wanted some toned arms. I wanted to be stronger in my arms, be able to lift more, move more, do more. I had a surgery a couple years ago that destroyed my left arm, so I took that as "oh I can't do that, I can't do arm workouts anymore." Bullshit. 2018, I have started pushing my limits. Pushing my body. I want toned arms so I'm going to work to try and get there. It's progress. Want to change? Start Changing. No one is stopping you but yourself and your mind. Your Powerful. Strong. Important and have the ability to achieve ANYTHING you want.
Have an AMAZING and motivating day friends. Look in the mirror and love what you see. My stretch marks and cellulite is just proof of a damn good life.